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Those Two Words Don't Go Together

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A question on facebook this morning - "Do you support gay marriage?" got me thinking:

No, I really don't support gay marriage.  To me, those two words just don't go together.

I have a hard time distinguishing in my mind between marriage as a covenant between a man and a woman that was ordained by God, and marriage as a contract sanctioned by a state/government that wants nothing to do with God.  They really aren't the same thing.  Government never should have been involved in marriage in the first place.  That's something that is between a husband, a wife, and God.  A civil contract - that's different.

So when someone says 'gay marriage' I can't help but think, "But marriage IS between a man and a woman!" That's what marriage IS."  And not being ready to change the very DEFINITION of marriage isn't really about hate (as always seems to be thrown out there) or trying to deny people their rights.  

Maybe, instead of trying to redefine marriage, we should stop trying to call the government sanctioned contract 'marriage' - for everybody.  My husband and I would have been MARRIED regardless of what the government had to say. Just call it a civil contract or a civil union and be done with it.

Does the terminology really make a difference?  Maybe.  Maybe not.  But maybe it would be easier for people to separate in their minds between actual marriage - before God - and something that's been called marriage but really has absolutely nothing to do with God or beliefs, something that's just a contract that comes with the resulting responsibilities and benefits.

Most of the people who want to change the definition of marriage don't want anything to do with God, anyway - so why try to enter into something that was originally ordained by Him?  They just want the contract and the benefits.  (and we're not just talking about gay people here, either)

So, no - I will not be supporting 'gay marriage' but I also won't be actively opposing it.  If somebody asks me to define marriage, I'm still going to define it as being between a man and a woman - because it is.  That's not hateful; that's just stating my belief. 

(I looked up the definition of marriage on dictionary.com - and they have already attempted to redefine the term.  Oh well.)

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bojojoti
May. 11th, 2012 02:05 am (UTC)
My qualms concern the freedom of religion. If a church doesn't want to marry people of same sexes, will that be discriminatory? Will they be sued?

I'd be for civil and church marriages--the government could sanction the first, and the church could sanction the second.
bcmom
May. 11th, 2012 04:18 pm (UTC)
Yes, if there's a clear separation that could work. I'm a bit worried about the freedom of religion thing too, but maybe if it was very very clear that there's a difference between the government's role and the churches' role, it wouldn't be an issue?

People seem to be very adamant about the 'separation of church and state' in most things, so this should go the same way.
bassnote
May. 13th, 2012 04:16 pm (UTC)
I wrote a college paper (and failed the class as the prof was a lesbian) on homosexual unions. At the time there was a big kerfluffle on how the ancient church used to ordain homosexual marriage and perform the unions. These were actually business contracts that were ordained by the church and sworn before God. Two guys would make an agreement for [enter reason], they'd go to the church and have it blessed. A union!

I don't care if two people who care for each other marry, but it'll never be called Holy Matrimony. There will be churches who perform these unions, but it won't be recognized everywhere.

In the end, we all have forests in our own eyes that we need to tend. I will hold His Word sacred in my heart, but will love all whom He places in my path. Harsh words never won any to Christ. Do I have to "agree" with "gay marriage"? Nope, nor will I, but neither will harshly condemn it. If people ask, I will speak my heart but do so in love and in peace. They may choose to react to it in any way they choose. The Gospel, after all, offends.
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